Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Roman's turn!

A rare shot of the subject doing quiet work...

Roman, my heart. Outside of fart/poop jokes, his dry wit has us laughing out loud almost every day. He'll toss off a one liner, like the other day when they were all washing the Jeep. Doug said something about shuffling the brush over the car, or Charlie should shuffle over... Roman stuck his hands in his pocket and said, "you mean shuffle like this?" and proceeded to do a little tap dance number with a big grin on his face. He gets those little word plays that crack us up.

In working with his adoption therapy, we found trying to get him to be okay with his story is just too challenging right now. He's got a lot of anger at his birthmom and a lot of feeling worthless that he's just not ready to tackle. So we are continuing on the plan to have him "graduate" from talk therapy for the time being, last appointment at the end of April. He really is controlling his moods & hyperactivity SO much better than he used to, in conjunction with his meds. He also is continuing on neurofeedback, which has proven remarkable on his anxiety & hyperactivity. We are 35 visits in out of 40, and then Doug and I will decide whether to press on for the rest.

Roman had yet another friend move out of the neighborhood last week. It was one we really liked, he was very agreeable and played well with Roman. We will miss him, and I know every little "bon voyage" rips Roman a little bit. We're focusing on a couple other calming friends and of course I can keep him busy this summer! Most days he's a great big brother too. If not a bit on the bossy side.

At school he still loves Math and Social Studies the best. He did a biography recently on Neil Armstrong, then had to "dress" like him for a presentation last week. He said he wasn't nervous at all. I've tried to get him into theater but he won't have it yet. Still fascinated with skateboarding but won't try it himself. He has a great fear of breaking his leg again - why he won't rejoin karate, for example. He doesn't want swim lessons either. He's a hard boy to please!

Legos are still the main event here at our house, although Imaginext guys / playing guys or cars with Charlie is also a good way to pass the time. I feel like he's approaching that dicey foreign age-land of 9, 10, 11 - ages when I don't know what interests boys and I definitely don't "get" them. Hopefully Doug can help out with this!

Wednesday, March 07, 2012


My little independent son. Loves to be a helper - he wants to cook, do the dishes, and tonight he wanted to help me take the trash & recycling out. He's very proud of himself when he does, too. He loves cars, planes, "guys," & recently decided he needs to collect Pokemon cards like Roman. He also has shown some interest in creating Lego guys.

At school his behavior is much improved. No more hitting. Between them and us, we've almost cured him of constant potty-talk, too. Now we're just in the "not following any directions" stage, which drives Doug crazy.  Charlie decided his second swim coach was not as good as his first, Mr. Joe. He told me he wouldn't do a rollover for anyone but Mr. Joe... so we switched his swim class to a new day & time to accommodate his affection. And what do you know, after 2 practices he's doing rollovers for Mr. Joe.

Charlie is also excelling at Tiny Tigers tang soo do, earning his "tiger stripe" after testing last month. Doug reports he seems to be a natural, loving the kicks and remembering combinations pretty well. Clearly he's going to be the athlete of the family.

I have a video but seem to be having trouble uploading it here; but mark my words, it was cute. Charlie singing a little song. Ah well, I'll try it on Facebook for those of you who see me there!